Birthday boy shirt, onesie and hat: Initial Here Gifts
Cake, cupcakes and cake pops: Sweet Art Bakery
Invitations: Kaylee Bug Designs
Hushpuppies: Delaney’s Irish Pub
Cupcake liners, straws and tiny chevron bags: Sweet Estelle Baking Supply
Fabrics: Texas Susannie’s Fabric Store
Photography backdrops: Swanky Prints
No. 1 cookie cutter: The Cookie Cutter Shop
Goody bags: Bake Me a Party
Photography: Chad McKinney Photography
Nowadays the decision to stay home vs. go to work is more complex than it seems. In today’s society that empowers women to work side by side with men in the workforce and be breadwinners, there is still a prejudice in wanting this. When I became pregnant with my son, both my husband (at the time) and I were in a common agreement that I would work. We actually never even talked about me staying home.
From time to time, I would entertain the idea of being a SAHM, but was never fully swayed on the idea. My family, friends, and in-laws were all happy and respectful of my choice to stay at home. Once my 2nd trimester hit, people (mostly co-workers) started questioning what was to happen after baby. At this point, there wasn’t a negative reception towards my choice.
As my pregnancy progressed, the amount of questions increased and the negative comments started. It wasn’t too bad at this point… The occasional female would end the conversation with “I’m sure you will change your mind after you have the baby”, “You’ll do what is best for the baby at the time”, and my personal favorite “That’s cute, how femme of you”.
This was a great buffer for the interesting (read: mean) comments, questions, and assumptions I would get post baby. There is definitely a huge divide between stay at home moms and working moms. It’s unfortunate, but I have been in several conversations with other moms and when I mention that I work, the whole dynamic changes. What once started as a friendly, happy conversation, has ended in a touch a judgment and a knowing look exchanged by the SAHM and SAHM’s friend. It would be unfair for me to look down on SAHMs, so why look down on me?
The bottom line is everyone is different. Everyone has a different way of parenting, different views on how children should be raised, and how much you value your career. Us women should empower each other and not exclude each other over such a silly minute detail.
Below is an excerpt from a post by a fellow working mom with some very valid points:
blue and gold tree.
orange juice and cinnamon rolls.
breakfast at IHOP (no judgement).
presents with grandparents.
present opening session with daddy.
finding out no stores are open.
present opening session with my momma.
remote control cars.
pajamas for baby.
cute sephora gift box.
Hello Christmas clean up.
More to come soon!
All of the mothers out there will probably agree with the fact that maintaining your pre-baby look becomes a little difficult after the baby comes. For me, I was quite naive. In my mind, once I had my son I would be a total MILF. Pre-baby, I assumed that since babies sleep most of the day that I would have endless amounts of time to primp, fluff, manicure, and beautify myself before leaving the house. In my ever so naive imagination, I pictured myself leaving the house in my pre-baby jeans (because come on, it's not hard to lose baby weight) with perfect hair and make up toting cute little one in his designer baby clothes. I mean, my mom was an image of perfection post-baby so why wouldn't I be as well?
Reality Check Time.
I learned I wasn't my mom. I learned that you can't just fit into those pre-baby size 4's and it's pretty depressing when you try. I learned that your hips get bigger (who knew!). I learned about a lovely thing called sleep deprivation. Lastly, I learned that looking smashing post-baby is pretty dang hard.
What I envisioned:
What actually happens:
A great article on how to bring sexy back as a new mom here and here.